I’ve been thinking a lot about self-improvement and self-reflection lately. With the new year, I’m sure I’m not the only one with these kinds of things on my brain. There are so many things to accomplish this year, am I right?
But, instead of making a list of the things that I want to do, I decided I wanted to make a list of things I wanted to stop doing.
I think so many of us, especially women, just try to do it all and then are hard on ourselves for falling short. (My life in a nutshell.) Ladies, let’s stop trying to be everything and the kitchen sink. In 2017, I am going to give myself some grace and stop doing these things.
Things I Should Stop Doing in 2017:
Telling myself I’m too busy. That’s such a lame excuse to make. If there’s something I really want to accomplish, I need to carve out time. Even if it’s just a few minutes a day to work towards a larger goal.
Committing to too much. On the flip side, it’s hard for me to say no to a lot of things, but when I overcommit, I stress not only myself out, but my family out. The last thing I want to do is put a strain on my marriage and kids because I’m away from them for something that doesn’t really benefit me in the long run.
Apologizing all the time. The easiest thing in the world for me is to say, “Sorry.” It comes out so freely that it pretty much means nothing at this point. There’s no need to justify everything that I do.
Letting myself be a doormat. I have a lot of flaws, but one thing that I can say is that I am extremely eager to help and give to others. I give my time, knowledge, expertise, thing, etc. to anyone that asks. I then find myself in the predicament that not voice when I feel like I’m being taken advantage of. Or I’m the only one ever giving. Or I feel like nobody wants to help me because I “have it together.” I’ve got to stop being a doormat.
Getting trapped in the comparison game. This one is so tough. Social media is everyone’s highlight reel, and we always see everyone’s best foot forward. It’s so easy to fall down this trap, and wonder why I don’t have nicer things, more money, a better closet, etc. I’m putting on my blinders and moving forward with a smile on my face.
Holding onto mom guilt. Oh, the mom guilt is real. So, so real. It’s hard to shake! I’d like to think it’s a sign of us always wanting the best for our kids. But sometimes I let things from years ago bother me. “If I were more present then maybe I wouldn’t struggle with this now.” WTF is that nonsense?
Say/think that I am fat. I’m raising two daughters. It’s important to me, even if for their sake, to always portray a positive body image around them. I know I have made comments like, “Ugh, I feel huge today,” around them, thinking they don’t pay attention. The fact is, they pick up on these things, especially my five-year-old. If I stop saying it, I’m also going to stop thinking it. No, I don’t sit around and think, “Oh my gosh I’m so fat,” (because I’m not, gosh darn it!) but I get down on myself even if I gain just a little weight. No more of that crap. Just always make healthy choices and be proud of who I am.
What are you going to stop doing in 2017?