Updated March 5, 2019
Well, I took an unintentional week hiatus on my blog. Between traveling to the Pinners Conference in Dallas, getting an ear infection, and then a migraine – blogging was the last thing on my mind. I suppose it was a way to force me to slow down a little bit and take a breath.
Blogging can do that to you. It’s a non-stop stream of thoughts, and you rarely turn that side of your brain off. You work, you hustle, you dream. And through all of that, you somehow start comparing your success to others’. You begin thinking,
“I’ve been doing this for 6 years. Why haven’t I gotten that kind of opportunity?”
“Why don’t I have more followers?”
“Is my Instagram feed not pretty enough?”
“Why don’t I get invited to things?”
The list goes on.
The comparison game is pretty ridiculous. It happens in blogging, and it happens in daily life. As put together (ha!) as I appear, I do have a lot of insecurities and doubts. When I start getting in that funk of discouragement, I always have to remind myself to choose happy.
Because happiness really is a choice.
When things go unplanned, my kids are particularly rambunctious, or if my husband and I get in a tiff – choosing happiness can either make or break my day.
I am very easy going and good with change, but when I get in a funk over something that makes me feel less than worthy, affirmations make all the difference.
“Words of Affirmation” is my love language because I do tend to be so critical of myself. I can’t expect others to always affirm me all the time, so it’s up to me to remind myself.
I’d like to think that giving myself affirmation is choosing happy.
Over the years, I’ve learned that I am in charge of the way I react to situations, success, failure, doubt, and hardship. I cannot control what will happen, but I can control how I will handle it. That’s why I choose happy.
I choose happy not because it’s the easy choice, but because it’s the right choice.
Some ways I affirm myself:
- Listen to uplifting music
- Read through comments/emails from people who I’ve helped
- Read old blog posts that I was really proud of
- Get some fresh air (if it’s not too hot)
- Play silly games with my children
- Cook a homemade meal for my husband
It’s the little things that really help me give myself a little pep talk. If you’re a “Words of Affirmation” person, you probably understand.
Here’s to choosing happy, even if it’s easier not to. How do you choose your happy?
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